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Who is January Jones. She is not a young, beautiful,
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talented actress on Mad Mad. She is not an older,
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gorgeous exotic dancer from The Johnny Carson Show. She is
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an author and she wrote Thou Show Not Why the
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Eleventh Commandment that rates number one at Amazon dot com.
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She is a reality TV golf personality with World High
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Stakes Golf televised on hd Net. She is a human
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and why knowlogist expert. She is your featured host today
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on January Jones sharing success stories. So sit back, relax,
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and get ready to laugh and listen to Ms Jones
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with her eclectic roster of guests as you learn life's lessons.
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These stories plus sharing equal success. Welcome and remember beware
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because you are entering the no whining world of January Jones.
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Hello everyone, I hope you're having a glittery, glowing day.
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I'm January Jones, and I'd like to welcome you to
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our podcast. As you can see, I'm in my glitter
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granny attire, which we'll tell you about later in the show. Also,
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I'm wearing an American Heart Association T shirt. My husband
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as a heart survivor, and we were invited to walk
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in the Tampa General Hospital Walk last weekend. It was
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an honor and we're so proud of our shirts. Now,
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for my listeners, let me ask you a question. Have
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you ever had a chance to meet a psychiatrist? Yes,
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a real one, one who is passionate about women's rights
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as I am. What tell me?
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What do you think.
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About Roe versus Wade being overturned? Well, everyone has opinions
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about that these days. Also, do you remember the first
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time you heard about a school shooting?
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Yeah?
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We all do remember that. Can you imagine what it
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would be like to deal with someone with mental health
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issues within your own family? Tell me, have you ever
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heard of a book called Fractured. If you can answer
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yes or maybe to any of these questions, then you
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are in the right place. And I'd like to welcome
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you to January Jones sharing senior success stories. Now, I'd
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like to tell you a little bit about my guest today.
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She Oh, before we do that, be sure to go
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get your wine, cheese and crackers. That's our ritual here,
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you know, I have mine here. My guest was born
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in Kenya and she went to school in Britain and Scotland. Yes,
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and then she moved to America when she was only
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twenty six years old, which is a pretty young time
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to move anywhere. She practiced. Is a licensed psychiatrist and
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practicing for over twenty five years, working with children, mostly
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in adults too, and during the pandemic, with the increased
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incidents of mental health issues, she decided to write three books,
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US US On Hinge and US Fractuirt Great titles, Great titles.
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It is my pleasure to welcome to the show doctor
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Shila Patel. Hi, Shila, Hi.
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Thank you for having me on your show. It's a
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real honor.
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Oh, it's wonderful to have you on. I've been looking
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forward to this the story has got to be fascinating.
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So you started out, how did your parents get to Kenyo?
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Tell us the Kenya part of your story.
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My father was an amazing man who really believe lived
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in improving his destiny. So at the very young age
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between seventeen and nineteen, he and a friend got on
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a boat because at that time there were you know,
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no flights or anything coming all the way over from
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India to the east coast of Kenya. His older brother
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had already settled in Kenya by that time. The reason
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why we went to East Africa was because there was
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a British colony and when my parents were born, they
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were under the British rule in India, so everybody was
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born a British citizen so they could travel to a
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British colony. So that's how my dad ended up in Kenya.
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Now all of East Africa was British colonies, Uganda, Kenya,
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in Tanzania, and my mother was in Uganda and she
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came over only when she was five years old to
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be with her parents. And so my dad and mom
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had arranged marriage Okay, ended up settling in Kenya.
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Okay, but I was both were originally from India.
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Yes, they were both originally born in India, but grew
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up really in Africa.
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Okay, okay, So then you were going, how did they
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meet that would be interested in hearing that it's more of.
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An arranged marriage. They you know, there were not that
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many Indian families around, and so by word of mouth
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knowing that there are certain people around, somebody is of
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a marrying age because at that time, once you reached
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the age of seventeen or eighteen, you know, the women
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were married off.
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Oh.
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Father was so progressive that when he went to meet
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my mom, she was in her final year of high school,
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said he was not going to marry till she graduated
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from high school, and he let her finish high school
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and then they got married. Oh mom was very young mother.
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She had my twin sisters and me before the age
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of twenty one. So she's more like a friend now.
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She In fact, she'll turned ninety this December, and there
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having a huge celebration for her next Saturday for her
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ninetieth birthday.
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Oh my gosh, is your dad still with you too?
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Sadly he passed away ten years ago. When I moved
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to Florida Because I practiced in Georgia, but Dad had
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loved this place and wanted to move and live close
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to us with the beach, and sadly he passed away
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six months after we moved. But Mom has been amazing.
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I mean, you know, she only had her high school education,
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She's never driven, she's never opened a check, she's never
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opened any mail, and she chose to live by herself
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in her home and that's where she's been and so
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my sister takes care of her for most of the time.
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She lives a block away from her, and I go
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home and take care of the bills, weeding her back patio,
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getting her shrubs, you know, taking care of the mail,
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taking care of any repairs that need to be done
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in the house. So I see a week to ten days,
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so she has some company with her as well.
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You know, this is fabulous because this show is senior
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success stories, and I'm so proud I turned eighty one
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this last year.
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And eighty one and then meeting a.
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Success story who's turned ninety that's incredible.
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And then on top of.
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It all, I've got a very very early Christmas card
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from a friend and worked with him through the years,
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and he is going to be one hundred and two.
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Go figure, go figure.
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Okay, So your parents, okay, So what prompted them to
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come to America.
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My father had always wanted to immigrate to America. At
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that time, they were allowing professionals to come over, and
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he was an accountant. And so when in Africa, you
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can go to the universities after high school, but the
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degree is not recognized all over the world. So what
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happens is that once we finish high school, you can
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either go to England because we were British citizens, or
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you know, some kids went to India for further education.
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But my father, since I and my sisters were in
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England in the universities, that came over from Africa. But
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he really didn't like the weather. He didn't like the cold,
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clammy drizzley whether off London, and so he had always
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wanted to come over to America, and we actually had
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green card visas to come over, but Dad kind of
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held back a couple of years because we were all
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settled in and studying in England. When I was halfway
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through med school and my sisters had already finished their
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pharmacy school and their pedetary school, they all moved over
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to America, and I told Dad that I would visit
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every summer and then I would come over once I
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finished medical school. And so I stayed on an extra
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year to do my housemanship because to register as a
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physician in England you have to do an extra year.
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And so I finished med school, I did my houseman year,
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and then I came over at twenty six.
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Wow. Now, okay, so you're all very professional women, very
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accomplished women, dare I asked, did you have arranged marriages
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in your futures?
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Well, both my sisters had arranged marriages. Oh really, I
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I have a funny story because I was very, very
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confident at the age of eighteen. Once I finished high
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school and finished my two years of pre university, I
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did not want to be a physician. I said, I'm
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going to be a dentist. I can be at top
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of my profession in six years. I don't have to
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go through all for med school and residency and all that.
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So I applied to the Dental School of London and
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got in, but I had to wait out a year
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because I couldn't get any assistance from the government for
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the schooling till I had been in the country three years,
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and so I decided to just go back to school.
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And I loved languages, so I said, I'll take French
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and German, and I had already had Latin, and so
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I decided to do that for the year. Well, I
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had a boyfriend in high school and I had pushed
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him to go into medical school because that's what he
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wanted to do. So he went to Saint Andrew's school.
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So of course after going there, he couldn't live without
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me and wanted me to come and visit. And so, oh,
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I was very bad. I told I ran off for
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a week. I told my parents I was visiting my
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sister and went to s Andrews to see him for
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a week. Well, during that week, I went and saw
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the dean of the medical school, and kids caught. He
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offered me a position for medical school for the following year.
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Oh kay, I would.
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Believe that this is how I got into medical school
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because I already had my grades to get into dental
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school and so I didn't need anything extra to get
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into medical school. And so he said, well, I'll offer
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you a place for next year.
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So then love conquers all.
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I would love to have heard the conversation when you
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broke that to your parents.
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I know you know what. I never told mom and
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dad how I got into medical school. I just said
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I applied and I got in.
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So is the happy ending to this story as you've
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married another doctor.
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Well, I was sad because I and maybe that's you
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know that'll come up in the conversation. But he was
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an only child. We always talked about having a cricket
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team for children. We wanted lots of children. Well, sadly,
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I had an ectopic pregnancy. Oh and being a physician,
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I went to the doctors and I said, I got
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pain in my right side. You know you need to
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take a look at that and make sure that it's
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not an ectopic pregnancy. They did a tell you know,
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ultra sile and said no, no, it's just a sis.
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Don't worry about it. Well, ten days later I woke
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up in the morning with one and a half leads
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of blood in my paraneum. And to make long story short,
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I had a lot of infertility issues when I went
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through all my residency at Medical College of Georgia. We
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tried every way we could and there was no way
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I could get pregnant, and so I was the only
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female psychiatrist in that area for fifteen years, and he
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was the only neurologist in that area, and so both
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of us had incredibly busy private practices, and there comes
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a time when you're not taking care of each other,
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and we became more like a brother and sister, and
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so we are still the best of friends. I ended
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up having a partner for thirty six years now, and
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we traveled together and he was the counselor at the
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hospital where I worked, so we were both in mental health.
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And my ex husband ended up marrying a younger Catholic
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nurse of course ten years younger, and gave him five children,
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and so he got the family that he wanted. He
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had the children that he wanted, but sadly his wife
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passed away at forty nine after giving him the five children.
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So he ended up marrying her sororis sister, who so
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strangely looks just like her, and so he got help
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in raising the five children. So I think destiny plays
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a big part in how your life is going to go,
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and it doesn't matter how hard you try. Because as