January Jones Sharing Addiction and 5 Stages of Grief with Valerie Galloway

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choosing W forcy Radio. Who is
January Jones. She is not a young,

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beautiful, talented actress on Madman.
She is not an older, gorgeous

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exotic dancer from The Johnny Carson Show. She is an author and she wrote

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Thou Shalt Not Y, the Eleventh
Commandment, that reached number one at Amazon

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dot com. She is a reality
TV golf personality with World High Stakes Golf

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televised on hd Net. She is
a humorist and whinologist expert. She is

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your featured host today on January Jones
sharing success stories. So sit back,

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relax, and get ready to laugh
and listen to Miss Jones with her eclectic

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roster of guests as you learn life's
lessons. These stories plus sharing equal success.

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Welcome and remember beware because you are
entering the no whining world of January

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Jones. Hello everyone, I hope
you're having a wonderful day. I'm January

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Jones, and I would like to
welcome you to our podcast today. As

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you can see, I have a
new brand. I'm now being nick called

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the glitter Granny. We all wear
many hats as we go through our days,

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and today my hat is my yellow
interview hat. After all, it's

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springtime and I'm in a yellow mood. The nice thing about hats is then

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you really don't have to fuss too
much with your hair. Now, for

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my wonderful listeners, let me ask
you a question. Have you ever lost

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a loved one? Sadly, that's
a question most of us can answer,

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yes we have. Tell me,
have you ever met someone who has walked

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the walk and talk the talk in
the fields of addiction and grief? Can

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you imagine what it would be like
to actually help people to heal from addiction

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and from grief? Tell me,
do you ever think about writing a book?

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I guess everyone does it sometime in
their life. Now, would you

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like to meet someone who will share
her own experiences healing through writing and through

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speaking. Let me ask you,
have you ever heard of a famous book

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that's coming out on May twenty fifth
this year? It is called Addiction,

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Steal, Kill, and Destroy,
Satan's agenda to terminate you a spiritual guide

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to overcome addiction and loss. If
you can answer yes or maybe to any

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of these questions, then you are
in the right place. And I would

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like to welcome you to January Jones
sharing success stories. So now it's time

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rest, relax, go get some
wine and get some cheese and crackers as

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you enter the no wine zone.
Now, let me tell you a little

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bit today about my guest. She
is an Afro British woman born and raised

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in Oxford, England. She lives
in New Jersey now and she is a

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licensed life coach. She holds a
master's degree in social science, a bachelor's

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degree in social science, oh No, a bachelor's degree in community health,

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and an associate degree in Commercial Art
and Advertising. She's also a new author

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and her book, as I told
you earlier, is called Addiction, Steel,

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Kill, and Destroy. It's my
pleasure today to welcome to the podcast

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Ballerie Galloway. Hello, Gallery Gallery
Dow, Hi January, how are you

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wonderful? It's so nice to have
you with us. Where are you calling

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in from? So I'm calling it
in from New Jersey, Bergen County.

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That's where I live with my son. Oh great. Before we do get

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into the podcast, let me just
ask you, how did the pandemic affect

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your career? How did it affect
your writing at the episodes? How did

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you deal with the pandemic? Wow? January. I was working at a

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major New York City hospital, which
i'd worked for the past twenty three years.

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I just recently retired, but during
that time it was such a you

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know, a time where I would
call it confusion. There were so many

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people coming to the hospital on a
daily basis looking for loved ones. And

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the sad part for me was I
could see because we're right next to,

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you know, the Morgue, and
so you know, there were many body

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bags, you know, being you
know, transported next door, and so

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it was so sad to see people
come to the hospital with that expectation of

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their loved ones surviving and knowing,
you know, for the most part,

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that they were gone, you know. So I worked with a lot of

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palliative care patients, Um, you
know, coaching them through that very devastating

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time, you know. Um,
you know, I'm a professional ICF PCC

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licensed certified coach and so you know, a lot of the work I've done

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January during this past twenty three years
more working with the patient population. So,

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yeah, it was a sad time
for me. Oh yeah, and

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you know, the part where people
couldn't be with their loved ones when they

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passed was so tragic for so many
Yeah, I've had a lot of guests

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on the show that I've taught to
about the pandemic situation. I call it

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the pandemic pause. But as we
know, it was more than a pause.

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It was a devastating experience for many
people, especially people who lost loved

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ones. The separation, I think
the isolation is what was devastating for so

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many people. Now, as a
transformational coach, tell us a little bit

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about how you got into this field
and how you incorporated into the work that

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you're doing. Okay, so basically, you know, again, like I

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was saying before, a lot of
the work I've done over the past twenty

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three years at this hospital in New
York City has been, you know,

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working under the Patient Experience department as
a coach and a coordinating manager. So

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you know, I worked for the
Office of Strategic Management, which was one

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of them what would you got,
a cabinet It was a cabinet job for

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the hospital. I worked single handedly
for seven years in that specific department.

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I was with the hospital for twenty
free years, but that specific department under

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the Patient Experience Strategic Management was seven
years and I ran that department single handedly

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for seven years. I created,
I devised im you know, created all

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the materials for it, and I
mostly worked with college students and you know,

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the impatients as well as an interdisciplinary
treatment team in terms of you know,

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accruing ways to you know, with
the therapeutic teams to work with the

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impatients and the medical staff. And
again it was paloted care patients, facilitating

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bereavement care and services you know,
to name a few, oh for sure.

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So you know I mentioned all the
wonderful, amazing degrees that you have.

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How long did it take for your
education and training to become a coach?

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Oh? So fortunately for me,
because I worked and I was given

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all these progressive responsibilities, you know, demonstrating the ability to set priorities,

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you know, deliver on deadlines and
develop workflow processes for patients, the students

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and staff. The hospital gave me
the opportunity to receive a license from the

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ICF, which is kind of like
the Ivy League of Coaching, and so

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that took me about a year.
That was, I want to say two

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eighteen was when they awarded with me, awarded me that opportunity. Okay,

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Now I mentioned in the introduction your
Afro British, how old were you when

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you came to this kind That's a
story in and of itself. So January,

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what happened was, so I was
born and raised in Oxford, England,

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and my mother back in the seventies, she used to frequent the NCO

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clubs and that was where she met
my would soon to be my latest stepfather

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at one of these NCO clubs in
Upper Hayford, Oxford, England. And

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so long story short, they got
together. During his five year assignment in

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England and Upper Hayford, he was
a sergeant in the US Air Force and

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so upon completion of his assignment after
five years, he was re sent back

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to Waco, Texas, which was
his hometown. And during that time he

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was in the process of retiring and
he unfortunately had emphysema. So he retired,

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you know, with the emphysema,
and my mother came over, they

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got married and the rest is history. So I was sixteen at the time,

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so I completed all my you know, I went to Lefield Primary School.

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I went to Lawn up to middle
school in Pierce High School in Oxford.

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So by the time our green card
came for it took two years.

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I was already eighteen, So I
was sixteen, so still legally a minor

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at the time that she filed for
our residency here in the US. Okay,

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And so then technically your schooling,
your elementary primary schooling was over.

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So you didn't go the school here, No I didn't. I completed all

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my post education, you know,
my bachelor's, my master's associate and my

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coaching license here. So how was
it? Tell me, how was it

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for a teenager to come to the
United States? What were your first impressions?

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So this is a story. This
is a story January I love to

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tell because you know, growing up
in England, Oxford, England. No

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less, I used to work at
Merton College. Now most people make the

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mistake of thinking that Oxford University is
one university. No, there's thirty five

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in total, right, And I
used to work at Murton, which was

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built i want to say in the
twelfth century, so it had it was

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beautiful, it had coupled streets and
I worked there after school. I had

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a moped. I would write to
my job and we would serve the dons

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the dance and it kind of reminds
me if you know, when you graduate

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from high school and you have that
traditional you know, black cap and cape.

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So every night after school I would
moped to this job. It was

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a very prestigious college and we weren't
allowed to talk to the students. We

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just serve them the you know,
their dinner for the night. And so

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growing up in the it was a
it was an how privilege because it was

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an experience that I learned so much
about who I am as a result,

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and you know, it was just
it was amazing growing up there and coming

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here. What happened was I'm not
gonna lie I was a bit of a

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snob because I grew up watching do
you remember the Show's Dallas Dynasty Folking Crest,

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So in England, I grew up
watching all this affluent and I love

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those shows, you know, Larry
Hagman, and I just thought, I

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thought the whole of America was like
that until I landed in Waco, Texas,

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And this was way This was way
before that whole David koresh compound,

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you know incident. Do you remember
that, that Waco incident? Okay,

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so this was way before that.
So now I'm dating myself in terms of

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my age. But anyway, so
when I landed at the it was Dallas

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Fort Worth Airport, and I'm eighteen
years old, and it was it reminded

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me of the old Gary Cooper movies, you know, with a tumbleweed,

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because I grew up with people walk
in the streets, buses, transportation,

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you know, and so landing in
Waco, Texas back in those days,

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it was a culture shock for me. And so I hated it. I

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hated it. I didn't see the
folk and crest, the dynasty, you

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know, I didn't see that affluence, and I hated it. And I

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wanted to go back to England so
badly. And you know, that's another

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book. But obviously I ended up
staying. I can't understand because we were

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based in London for one year with
my husband's career, and oh my gosh,

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it was just a whole enchanting.
I felt like we were in another

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world. And we did go to
Oxford. We had a friend attending school

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there at what an atmosphere? Was
an environ and I can imagine the Oxford

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Waco. What a shock. Yes, but the good news for my listeners

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is she's not whining about it.
And right now we're going to hear about

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a book I wrote, Thou Shalt
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China. You can find Thou Shalt
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Thou Shalt Not Whine is now available
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back with Valerie Galloway and she is
not a whiner because she is a winner.

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Valerie, would you share with our
audience your website information and how they

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can get your book? On May
twenty five, Yeah, So I have

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several websites mindset coach, um,
uh sorry, this is a new one.

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So um. I also have Valerie
Galloway lifecoach dot com, I'm all

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over I'm all over TikTok coach about
one, I'm all over Instagram, Coach

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about twenty twenty three, I'm all
over YouTube, And as I said January,

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as you well know, I'm with
Trinity Broadcast Network with my new book

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coming out. So yeah, I'm
out there in the world right now.

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Oh that's wonderful. And everything is
on the screen below if you want to

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copy it down and check out Valerie
after the show. Let's talk about losing

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a loved one in your everyone has
lost a loved one, I'm pretty sure.

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But how how did it, who
did you lose, and how did

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it affect your life? So?
Okay, so January, as you mentioned

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before, you know, I'm the
author of an upcoming book called Addiction Still

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Killing Destroy John ten which is you
know, Satan's agenda from my perspective,

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to terminate you. And it's a
spiritual guide to overcome addiction and loss.

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You know. So as of June
twenty two, I contracted with TV and

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Trinity Broadcast Networking Publishing and they published
my book and they're currently in the process

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of promoting and working on distributing my
book globally. And the book came about

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January because of the experience I had
with loss, and so I just happened

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to send in my manuscript one day
when I was watching the show and the

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show was talking about you know,
if you've had an experience that you want

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to share with the world, you
know, sending your manuscript and don't call

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us, we'll call you kind of
situation and lower bold their executives reached out

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to me. So my book is
based on the untimely death of someone I

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truly loved and lost because of what
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I write about in my book.
You know, I write about how our

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loved one was allured, seduced,
and destroyed by Satan's agenda to terminate him

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specifically. And so the enemy,
in my opinion, led Tony to his

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depression then and sadly his untimely death. So my story with him was a

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complicated one January, and I don't
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me to this day, to be
honest with you in all honesty, our

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relationship was a very dysfunctional, codependent, unhealthy, destructive relationship and unity.

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And you know, we were both
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you know, and unlike most,
unfortunately for us, both of us,

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it was a negative experience. I
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we were together for ten years in
total until I walked away from the madness

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due to his chronic addiction and his
issues, and I took with me his

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seven year old son at the time, and he therefore ultimately gave up all

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hope, essentially after losing us both
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unit and he never knew his biological
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For his birthday one year, I
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only then he discovered he was irish. And after he lost us and his

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home with us, and subsequently his
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streets soon after, and so he
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drugs and alcohol and January. For
the longest time, I blamed myself.

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I tortured myself with remorse for his
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I didn't walk away, what if? You know. So I condemned myself

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with tremendous guilt in shape thereafter until
I wrote my book. That book released

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me. Okay, now, so
you wrote that was a therapeutic chance for

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you. You know, it's interesting. I've written six books myself, and

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I'll tell you I agree that thou
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over painful, painful territory. I
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five, two children, and it's
very difficult and writing about it and writing

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about it in a truthful way is
difficult. But I agree therapeutic and that

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would release you, hopefully from your
guilt. That would feel and that God

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drug and drugs and guilt, if
there's enough guilt for everyone. Yeah.

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Yeah, But for the longest time, like I said, I did blame

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myself. You know, there was
a lot of shame thereafter until I wrote

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this book. And why because there
were many times during our relationship where I

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had to fight against him, believe
it on it. I ultimately took him

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to court fighting for full custody of
our biracial son, which I won after

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many failed attempts while witnessing countless unscrupulous
things you know that jeopardized our son in

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his life, including minor car accidents. Even though I'm telling the judge all

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this, you know, it was
a fight. I went to court four

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times to win full custody while you
know, all these incidences happened while he

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was under the influence of drugs and
alcohol, and it took four attempts in

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court to gain full custody. Can
you believe it? Of our son,

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and shortly thereafter he died because he
lost everything, oh for sure. Yeah,

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and the legal system can be very
very difficult, as you said,

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and then this kind of thing,
um, did he have other family or

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is it just the two of you? So, because you know, when

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when we first met, it was
one of those things where you know,

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we had so much in common.
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adopted mother and father they were deceased, you know, and he really honestly,

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I mean, he has two other
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when I met him, you know, they weren't together and he and I

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we instantly clicked and it just became
a union from that day for until you

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know, you see, you see
all the craziness that goes with you know,

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addiction issues, and it just I
couldn't do it anymore January. I

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gave him so many opportunities to change, and he just he couldn't. He

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was he was already gone. You
know, my therapist. I love to

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say this and share with everyone,
but my therapist said, you know you

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were damaged, you know, because
I come from a dark past too.

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And my therapist said, you know
you were damaged by your experiences. But

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Tony, however, was broken.
And you know, you can't put a

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broken like if you think of a
vot once you drop that on the floor

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and it breaks into a million pieces, you can't glue that back together.

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There's fishes, there's cracks. And
that was him. Yeah. And do

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you think that damaged and broken people
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Absolutely. On our first date we
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a thing where you know, when
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oh, we've risen above it.
You know, we're heal, you know

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where whole. But then as the
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that wasn't the case. You know, he was extremely depressed, you know,

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and unfortunately sometimes those are situations that
it's so difficult, but you have

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to walk away, for away from
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And I know that must have been
the most one of the most difficult things

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you ever will was ever, it
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I I have this metaphor in my
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back in the old days potters Field, you know those old coffins, those

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old wooden coffins when you can't afford
to bury your loved ones. I always

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think of like four nails, one
in each corner, right, and because

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he was unders tremendous you know,
grief and depression, I think of myself

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as one of those nails that sealed
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so honestly that's why I wrote this
book. I needed to free myself from

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that condemnation, oh for sure,
and it was probably I know it would

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be good therapy for you, you
know. Right now, for my listeners,

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I want to remind everyone that it
is sixty years since the assassination of

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John Kennedy. And if you would
like to hear who I think killed Kennedy,

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you have to read my book.
Let me ask you a question.

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Are you still wondering who killed Kennedy? Over fifty years later? The assassination

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is still a mystery. It is
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was Jackie's guest in the White House
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only non family member who was invited
by Jackie to stay there during the funeral.

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Aristotlonasis was one of the wealthiest men
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the motive, and the money to
order an assassination that was the perfect

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crime of the last century. Ari
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were perfect for each other. Now, what is Camelot? It is but

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Welcome back with our wonderful guess,
Valerie Galloway. Valerie Lists talk about

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how you came up with the title
still, Kill and Destroy, addiction,

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steal, Kill and Destroy. Tell
us a little bit about how you pick

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that as your title. Oh sure, so as a Christian, January I

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attribute you know the uncertainty that we
all experience in life, with worry,

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with brief, with loss, to
the malevolent forces of the satanic spiritual world

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that we're all forced to live in. You know. So my book speaks

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directly to the abhorrence I have towards
Satan and the masochistic nature of his deviant

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you know, spiritual nature overall,
you know, and his malevolent operations he

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orchestrates in all of our lives.
And so my book is all about taking

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revenge by taking your power and control
back over your life overall. And I

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think sometimes, you know, we
all can live in the round with negativity

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far too long, and as a
result, we exacerbate, you know,

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how we perceive our lives, our
burdens, and simply by overthinking and over

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preoccupying ourselves with our anguish and grief, you know, when we lose someone.

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And for me, like trying to
discern how I should handle particular situations

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now that I'm a single mom.
And so when we tend to dwell on

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something that is really bothering us for
too long and so intensely, we can

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get into a state of rumination.
Well, I became fixated on payback with

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my book, So yeah, it's
done from my own need to release that

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pain, that anger that's from that
loss. Let me ask you were you

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as a child, were you raised
in a religious home? Did you have

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an awareness of Christianity, awareness of
Satan. How were you raised? So

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the interesting thing, January was,
so I grew up on a farm,

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no less on the outskirts of Oxford. So in other words, I always

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knew my biological mother. She continued
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I was born at Churchill Hospital in
Oxford, and so at the age

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of two she had me faster to
a Caucasian family on the outskirts of Oxford

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because at that time she really couldn't
afford to take care of us. She

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came to England from the West Indies
during the war torn days when they were

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trying to rebuild England, and so
back then, you know, so back

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then Jamaica was a colony under the
British colonials system, and so that's how

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she ended up in England. But
then when she came to England, she

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came with child, and my uncle
sponsored her and when he saw that she

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was pregnant, she ended up in
a mother and daughter hostel. That's the

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basic story. And so at age
two she sent us, me and my

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two sisters to live with a Caucasian
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but they weren't really religious at all. And you know, I always say

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this, this is another story,
another book that I'm going to write,

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because my experience there was very dark, and you know, without going into

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a lot of the specifics, I
do talk about it a little bit in

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my book. But you know,
that was the glue really that bonded Tony

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and I because we had very similar
situations growing up in the system, you

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know. And so no, they
weren't Christian. I became a Christian in

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my thirties, basically, and that
was due to some of the forces the

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Satanic. You know. You know, some people may not believe this,

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but you know, when you in
the Bible, it talks about when you

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entertain horoscopes, psychics and things of
that nature, you're opening portals and so

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yeah, so unknowingly, and so
these portals ultimately spooked me to where I

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ended up. You know, I
was living in Queens at the time in

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New York City, and I asked
my doorman. I asked my dormant if

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he knew of the priest that could
do a full on exorcism, which he

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did. Because I was experiencing a
lot of Satanic entities in my apartment that

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was really scaring me. So that
was an on set January of me experiencing

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satanic forces around me. And so
my book really doves into a lot of

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those experiences, and so becoming a
Christian was the whole impetus for me freeing

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myself from those demonic forces. Okay, so that would be the an adult

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to Satan. That's an interesting experience. I haven't I've had so many psychics

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and mystics and spiritualists on the show, and they've been fascinating, but I've

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never made the connection with the santanic
expirit connection. And you know, we

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see movies about exorcism and that type
of thing, never experienced it. So

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you're the first person on the show
to talk about that with me and my

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listeners. And I'm curious what sort
of things convinced you that Satan was surrounding

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you. So, okay, so
I'll never forget this. It was shortly

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after Valentine's you know, I'm in
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put loose, fancy free living life, you know, and I had received

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a red rose from a you know, a love interest at the time,

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and I'm on the phone talking to
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Now, now, honestly, for
me, I was living in an apartment

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that was haunted. And I kid
you not. Most people may not believe

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this, but ultimately what happened was
I'm sitting in the apartment, I'm talking

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to someone on the front and this
rose went flying across the room. I

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kid you not. So that was
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know, when you read the Bible, you start to see things and understand

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and comprehend. And so I said, oh my goodness, this is scary,

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amongst all other things that were trans
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never forget this, I'm watching,
you know, because I would turn to

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the religious, the Christian channels.
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TBN, by the way, Trinity
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channels because if you're trying to get
away from the darkness, you moved towards

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the light. And to me that
was let me watch, you know,

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some Christian channels. That way the
enemy will leave me alone. So I'm

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watching this, and I kid you
not. The ice, you know,

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the whites of the ice were red, were red with some of these people

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on these Christian channels, and then
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o'clock in the morning. I recall
calling the cable company and saying, what's

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going on with the TV? And
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It's fine, there's no interference.
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lot of interference. So this is
what led me to reach out to my

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dorman to bring a priest. And
I kid you not, he came to

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my apartment and he did a full
on exorcism. He sprinkled holy water,

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yep, he spring. He came
in the full liturgical gap that they were,

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you know, those ropes, and
he did a full into the eight

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o'clock at night on a Friday night, he did a full on exorcism.

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And you know what's so funny,
do you recall having you remember the tape

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recorders that we used to have.
Now I'm dating myself again. Yeah,

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So I taped the whole thing after
that priest left. Do you know that

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tape got mangled up? Remember that
brown long tape tape recorder. That thing

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got mangled up as I taked it. So right there I could tell there's

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a lot of demonic forces, you
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of it. That was destroyed completely, that whole session was destroyed on tape.

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This is fascinating. You're the first
person not or known or talk to

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or shared that experience. So like
when you want to get an exorcist,

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you went to your dorman, I
mean, yes, do you pay him

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or is it like you high or
not? Does it work? No?

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No, no, no no no
no. As a priest, did they

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do things like that? They help, you know, they help you rid

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rebuke any kind of negative you know, demonic entities. You know, that's

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what the sprinkle for the Holy water
is, you know, when you go

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to church. So now the devil
doesn't like any of that stuff. So

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tell me when he comes into your
apartment, does he sense the evil spirit?

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Yes? Oh oh yes, yes, yes yes, because after he

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left, and I kid you not, after he left there with such peace,

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such calmness in that apartment, And
that was really, honestly what drove

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me to become a Christian from that
point onwards, because you know, I

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don't like being spooted, you know, I don't like you know, staying

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up till three o'clock in the morning
looking all around me because all these you

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know, demonic you know, kind
of energies around me. Now, let

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me ask you a question. Were
those energies there before you moved in?

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Or did they come with you?
So that's what I meant January when I

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referred to so all this is in
the Bible. I'm not making this up.

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I look at it was. I
open those doors with these types of

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portals. Yeah, and I've read
a lot on this ever since. But

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you know, again, I'm a
Christian. Not everyone believes this, you

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know. I just happened to just
based on what I read in the Bible.

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Welcome back and my Priceless Personality books and

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another priceless personality today, Valerie Galloway. Valerie, let's talk about your peace

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course healing grief that you have a
bit. Tell us what they what people

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will experience if they do your peace
Sign up for your peace course. Yeah,

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so you've mentioned earlier January about the
pandemic, right, so I look

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at it like loss overall. Right, with the recent times with the pandemic,

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you'll be hard pressed to find someone
who hasn't been personally impacted by loss

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on some level or another, you
know, So navigating our experience of emotional

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pain through laws and the feelings we
all have, you know, towards the

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person or the persons we may have
lost at some point. It's a unique

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experience and it's unique to each of
us, and so loss can trigger a

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multitude of grief responses in relation to
many different types of events we all experience

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throughout life, right, so you
know, look it begs the question,

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have you ever experienced a loss?
So a pet, a job, a

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mischaracter relationship, a divorce, you
know, death, or something of great

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sentimental value to you all of us
have, right of course you have,

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and so the list is endless.
So I know, we all, we

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all can relate to this, and
we all have experience at least one,

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if not all, of these occurrences. And so grief, you know,

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is a universal experience, and people
grief differently, however, so it's important

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to know this, you know,
when we navigate through our loss with the

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typical I don't know if you know. Elizabeth Kubler Ross. She she coined

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the five Stages of grief. She's
a late Swiss American psychiatrist, and she

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coined the theory in nineteen sixty nine. I believe that there are five stages

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of grief that we naturally navigate through, particularly after we've experienced profound loss,

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and so think about it. Have
you ever experienced a deep sense of emptiness

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00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:07.280
after the funeral and the burial all
over? Have you ever felt isolated and

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00:43:07.400 --> 00:43:13.159
alone? You know, after all
the condolences and the well wishes have faded

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00:43:13.239 --> 00:43:16.440
away. I know I certainly have. And so for me, it was

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it was all about having a mindset
shift, you know, I found that

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in response. You know, we
have to learn to shift our limiting mindsets

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to envision endless, uplifting possibilities for
our lives and believe in our own capabilities.

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You know, we can find positive
ways to overcome our grief. Everything

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00:43:36.079 --> 00:43:38.280
is possible, you know, if
we learn how to envision it and learn

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how to manifest it. You know, So instead of being a circumstance driven

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00:43:43.559 --> 00:43:47.840
person, I've learned how to you
know, become more of a vision driven

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00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:52.079
person. And that's what my peace
course speaks to. You know, I

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decided to take my power back and
again become a vision driven person. So

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what do I mean by this?
You know, many people live their entire

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lives governed by their circumstances, you
know, their everyday lives. I mean,

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you know, the tedious results they
see right there in front of them

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on a day to day basis,
the humdrum routine of their basic, everyday,

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daily lives, you know, the
monotony of the repetitiveness, you know,

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the day in, day out living
situation. So I was one of

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them until I decided to step out
of my own complacent, you know,

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00:44:25.960 --> 00:44:31.000
mediocrity way of thinking and learn how
to think differently, more positively. So

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00:44:31.559 --> 00:44:36.400
you know my ultra level of loss, because it wasn't just you know,

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00:44:36.519 --> 00:44:39.079
Tony, it was I lost my
dog, I lost my mom, you

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know, And but his was the
most shocking death blow of them all,

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because he was the love of my
life, and because it was so premature

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00:44:46.599 --> 00:44:52.039
and tragic, you know, with
this excruciating, devastating loss, I created

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00:44:52.079 --> 00:44:55.400
a peace course to help me get
over to the other side of my own

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00:44:55.400 --> 00:45:01.079
grief, okay, and learn that
you to sharing it with other people,

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you know, from my own experience
with loss at an early age such as

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you are. Of course, at
my age everyone's young. So but every

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person's grief is unique. Every person
goes through different stages, which you've talked

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about by stages which anyone who has
a loss, you're all familiar with those,

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and it's like you'll be going along, You'll be just fine. Everything

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will be clicking, moving them bam. It's just like hitting a wall.

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It'll just overtake you. And it'll
be little things, just very minded things

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that could set it up and set
it up. When people do your peace

519
00:45:50.599 --> 00:45:55.079
course, is it YouTube or how
did they do it on zoom? What

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type of course have you created?
Now? Basically it's a it's a course

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where you you know, you sign
up and each day there's an assignment based

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around you know, the five typical
you know steps that she outlines as as

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as a brief process. So yeah, you're basically yeah, you're basically going

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through those five brief stages. Okay, And people, if they want to

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do this, they can find all
the information at your website. I'm assuming,

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yes, yes, yes, that
website. I have a new mindset

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and empowerment coach website that kind of
connects all of my you know, media

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things together. Okay, wonderful.
This has been so interesting, fascinating,

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fascinating. Lady with us today.
Here's a question I asked most of my

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guests before we end. If you
could have dinner with any one living or

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dead besides me, who would you
invite to dinner. And this's a long

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pause I'm getting can you hear me? Yes? Oh for me? Were

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00:47:20.159 --> 00:47:27.159
you asking me specifically? Because yeah, who would you invite to? Oh?

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00:47:27.239 --> 00:47:32.400
So um, you know with the
Elizabeth Kobler Ross model. While she's

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00:47:32.440 --> 00:47:38.519
deceased now, but through her she
was very instrumental January in me understanding the

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process of free the five stages,
which you know, postulates a series of

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emotions experienced by terminally ill patience prior
to death or people who've lost you know,

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loved ones. Wherein the five stages
are denial, anger, bargaining,

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depression, and acceptance. So you
know, just I've really leaned into a

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00:48:00.400 --> 00:48:05.880
lot of thought leaders in my own
self development after this loss. And so

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00:48:05.960 --> 00:48:09.480
this is we're talking Bob Proctor,
We're talking Mary Morrissy. I don't know

542
00:48:09.480 --> 00:48:15.480
if you know these folks. They're
all about the mindset. Tony Robbins,

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00:48:15.679 --> 00:48:20.039
Yeah, I've really learned a lot
from all of these fort leaders. So

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00:48:20.239 --> 00:48:24.639
yeah, it's a it's a continual
process of growth and development. Absolutely.

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Oh my dear listeners, we hope
you've enjoyed our time together today. We've

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tried to be informative and inspiring My
upcoming guests will all be eclectic, exciting,

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00:48:37.920 --> 00:48:44.840
and energizing, just like Valerie was
today Live Next Tuesday at two pm,

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I'm looking forward to welcoming doctor Karen
Gaye Lewis, who has been on

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00:48:49.679 --> 00:48:58.480
our podcast before. She's the author
of Sibling Rivalry for Therapists. Now my

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eighty year old thought for today.
You know you're getting old when everything hurts

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00:49:04.840 --> 00:49:12.039
and what doesn't hurt doesn't work.
So there you go. Signing off from

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the glitter Granny. Thank you for
entering the new zone, and please share

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00:49:16.199 --> 00:49:22.440
our stories in our show with everyone
you know. Remember stop whining and then

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00:49:22.599 --> 00:49:28.239
start smiling. And if that doesn't
work, then you can just start eating

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00:49:28.360 --> 00:49:32.559
chocolate, lots and of chocolate.
Thank you, Valerie, and I hope

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00:49:32.559 --> 00:49:39.000
you come back again to my life
to wonder. Okay, thank you for

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00:49:39.000 --> 00:49:47.440
having me. Oh, it's been
great, especially the exorcism part of That's

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another book. By the way,
that's another book. I get to work

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on that one right away. To
my listeners, take care and stay safe

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00:49:58.480 --> 00:50:06.039
until we meet again. By everyone, we want to thank you for listening

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to January Jones sharing success stories.
Always remember miss Jones personal mantra if you

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can think it, you can do
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have done with their lives, and
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success coach in your own life.
All you need to do will be to

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guest stories will encourage you to explore
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