Sept. 12, 2024

January Jones sharing How to Relieve and Master The Stress in Your Life with Dr. stephen s

January Jones sharing How to Relieve and Master The Stress in Your Life with Dr. stephen s

Stress is a fact of life—and it’s necessary for success.

Discover a holistic methodology based on 9 key pillars to help you thrive even with overwhelming stress.

Individuals at all levels of society and income are feeling the exhausting effects of...

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Stress is a fact of life—and it’s necessary for success.

Discover a holistic methodology based on 9 key pillars to help you thrive even with overwhelming stress.

Individuals at all levels of society and income are feeling the exhausting effects of economic uncertainty, political upheaval, international conflict, the pandemic

THE 9 PILLARS IF RESILENCE - DR. STEPHEN SIDEROFF at amazon


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Who is January Jones. She is not a young, beautiful,

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talented actress on Madman. She is not an older, gorgeous

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exotic dancer from The Johnny Carson Show. She is an

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author and she wrote Thou Show Not Why the Eleventh

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Commandment that rates number one at Amazon dot com. She

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is a reality TV golf personality with World High Stakes

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Golf televised on hd Net. She is a huge wrist

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and whininologist expert. She is your featured host today on

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January Jones sharing success stories. So sit back, relax, and

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get ready to laugh and listen to Ms Jones with

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her eclectic roster of guests as you learn life's lessons.

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These stories plus sharing equal success. Welcome and remember beware

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because you are entering the no whining world of January Jones.

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Hello everyone, I hope you're having a g literary and

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glowing day. I'm January Jones and i'd like to welcome

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you to our podcast today. As many of you know,

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I've created a new brand called glitter Granny Gifts to

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give or to get. I'm very excited about sharing this

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with everyone, and my website is for people who love

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to shop and who like to get a lot of

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attention in my spare time. I've become an associate affiliate

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at Amazon along with my assistant, my golden doodle, ginger Ale,

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who's helping me out. So go to glittergranny dot com

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if you'd like to go shopping with ginger Ale and

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myself at glittergranny dot com. Today, I'd like to welcome

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to our show a new guest. He has never been

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on the show before, and I'm very excited about having

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him with us. He has written a new book, Oh yes,

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and it's just came out two months ago. So let

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me ask you a question. Do you let stress weigh

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you down? Yeah, I think we all.

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Have you ever.

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Thought about your own brain health? Hm? Would you like

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to improve your emotional awareness? Do you know the best

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way to maximize your energy and to regain your focus?

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Well?

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Are you ready to meet someone who will help your

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feeling of self worth, happiness and help you get some

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more satisfaction with your life? Tell me now, have you

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ever heard of a book called the Nine Pillars of Resilience,

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The proven path to master stress, slow aging, and increase

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your vitality. If you can answer yes or maybe to

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any of these questions I've asked, then you are in

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the right place, and I'd like to welcome you to

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January Jones Sharing Senior Success. So now it's time rest, relax, Go,

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get some wine, get some cheese, get some crackers, and

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join us in the no wine zone. Now, let me

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tell you a little bit about my guest today. He

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is a first time visitor on our show. He is

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the founder and former clinical director of the Stress Strategies

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Program of UCLA Santa Monica Hospital and clinical director of

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Moonview Treatment and Optimal Performance Center. It's my pleasure to

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welcome to the show today doctor Stephen Sideroff. Hi, Stephen,

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how are you doing today.

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Hi, it's a pleasure to be here. I'm doing great.

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Good to be with you.

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Oh, I've looked forward to this interview for sure. Before

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we get into discussing your brand new book, could you

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share a little bit with our listeners where your success

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story began and tell us who your early mentors were.

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Of course, of course, So actually my career began in

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brain research, brain science. I was interested in discovering and

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uncovering where and how learning and memory take place in

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the brain. And I was very fortunate that early in

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my career one of my mentors was one of the

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pioneers in neuroscience, Donald Hebb. I mean, I wrote one

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of the first books on really explaining how learning takes

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place in the brain. And he's the one who may

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said for the first time, neurons that fired together, wire together.

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Oh I love that's fair and as a a statement

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that resonates with me and continues to be something that

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I focus on in how we engage the process of

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neuroplasticity and brain change and transformation.

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Wow, those are some pretty big words, right right.

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So my story is really about wanting to help as

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many people as possible deal with perhaps the biggest challenge

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we all face, which is chronic stress. Yeah, and I've

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learned very early on some of the reasons why we

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actually have resistance to dealing with stress, one of which

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is that if you think about all the successes in

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your life, I guarantee that almost all of them have

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been associated with stress. You know, an important presentation, a test.

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Every situation that has led to success was accompanied by stress.

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So back to my mentor neurons that fire together, wired together.

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Now brains have put those two things together stress success,

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and so it's very important to realize and as a result,

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I have redefined stress and the stress response as a

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tool for success. We have to realize that there is

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a stress sweet spot, and most of us overshoot that

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sweet spot into danger zones. We have too much stress

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in our lives and that leads to physical symptoms, and

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it leads to emotional symptoms and even cognitive symptoms. So

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this led me to my book and my model, a

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new model of resilience withal of resilience, which I'm excited

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to share and talk about with you today.

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Well, you know that's why I'm so happy to have

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you with us, because this has been an extremely stressful

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time for everyone. And I'm not just talking about seniors.

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Everyone of every age has been going through this election

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cycle so much stress every time you put the news on.

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And I've had some other guests and the only thing

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they can they've come up with so far is, you know,

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turn the news off. But then I'm dealing with a

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lot of news junkies, of which I happen to be one.

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So I'd like to hear your take on some ideas

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for helping seniors and everyone else deal with stress.

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Let me start with very some very basic points. We

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have two branches to our nervous system. Our nervous system,

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our central nervous system is what GUIDs everything that takes

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place in our brains and in our bodies. And that

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nervous system has two branches. One branch is the sympathetic

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activation branch that gets triggered every time we experience stress,

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every time we experience a danger a threat, and that

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sympathetic activation activates our body, and it activates our body

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for the fight or flight response to deal with the danger.

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Even though January I will suggest that very few of

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the stresses in our lives can be handled by either

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fighting them or running from them, but our body mobilizers

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for that fight or flight response. Every time we wake

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up in the morning and we worry about am I

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going to be able to pay my bill? We trigger

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the activation of the fighter flight response. We are concerned

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about a conflict with a friend, we activate the stress response.

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So that's the one branch of our nervous system. The

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other branch is the recovery branch. It's the branch that

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you want to switch into to restore all the resources

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used up when you are stressing your body. So these

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need to be in balance. Now, I will suggest that

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for most of your audience throughout the day, we're activating

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the sympathetic the fight or flight response. But how many

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stimuli do you have in your day that says you're safe,

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you can relax. For me, I don't have any in

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my I don't know about you, about you.

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Well, the best one I have is our little puppy dog.

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Well good, yes, and puppies can serve that purpose. But

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my point is here is that we're continually activating the

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stress response, and we don't spend enough time recovering and

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restoring balance. Okay, and so the most important lesson for

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your audience is to realize we all have just a

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certain amount of personal energy. It's not unlimited, right, And

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if we're always looking for danger out there, if we're

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continually stressing and we're not giving our bodies the opportunity

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to recover, that's when our bodies overheat. That's when our

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bodies become disregulated. That's when we have physical symptoms, emotional

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and mental symptoms. So this notion of balance is at

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the heart of resilience.

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Now, you mentioned energy, and I find I'm dealing with

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a husband who wants to take naps all the time.

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And as you get older, obviously you have less and

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less energy. So what is your message for my older

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listeners today.

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Yes, so there's a few points to address this. First

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of all, is to remember that if you're using your energy,

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your personal energy, to worry about something going on in

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the outside world, you may be taking energy away from

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your kidneys that are required to purify your blood. Because

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we don't have an unlimited supply of energy. So the

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more you focus your energy out into the world, the

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less energy is available for the healing and maintenance of

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your body. You know, there was once a study done

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in which they put a ten centimeter cut in people's arms,

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and then they looked at how long it took to heal,

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and they found that the people who had higher levels

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of stress took twice as long for that to heal.

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Oh my gosh. So what's very important is that everybody

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find a particular way for them to engage that recovery

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branch of the nervous system. Now, I recommend that people

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take about ten minutes each day to practice a relaxation exercise, mindfulness, meditation,

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some form of relaxation, a breathing exercise in which you're

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focused on relaxing your body. Not the same as watching TV.

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No'll be activated by watching TV. So my first two

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recommendations are Number one is to think throughout your day

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of finding what I call zones of safety, time places

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where you could literally say to yourself safe, I'm safe

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right now, I could let down my guard and give

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my body the opportunity to recover. Particularly doing that when

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you sit down to have a meal. Oh yes, because

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if you sit down to have a meal and you're

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worrying about something, you're engaging the stress response. And when

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you engage the stress response, your body wants to shut down.

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Your digestive system. Ohka, and this is why a lot

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of people have gastro intestinal problem stressed while they're eating.

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Wow, hearing you tell it that way, that makes sense.

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I can even understand that. But right now we're going

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to take a little break and hear about what Glitter

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Granny's been up to.

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she is adding to this list almost every day with

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Welcome that with my wonderful guest today, Doctor stevensider Off.

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Is not a whiner because this man is a winner

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and he's sharing with us an amazing book that he's

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written and it's now at Amazon. And doctor, do you

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have a website that you can promote right now?

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Yes, my website is doctor dr Stephansitteroff dot com, doctor

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stephansitterov dot com. And one of the things I want

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to offer for your audience is a My Resilience Assessment booklet.

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Oh and this describes my nine pillars of resilience. But

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beyond that, it has a questionnaire that your audience can take.

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They can self score and they can identify their personal

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resilience profile along my nine dimensions. Oh wow, fabulous. And

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how where do they go to your website to get it?

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They go to my website and they can get it

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for free. Okay.

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And is it an ebook or do you get a payer?

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It's an ebook.

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Well guess where I'm going. And I'm also gonna dig

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have my husband.

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It's very eye opening.

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Oh thank you. What a wonderful gift for our listeners.

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Now we were talking nine pillars, uh biliens. Nine pillars.

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We talked about number one is a safe zone, and.

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Well that's actually the fourth pillar. Oh that's what's the

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first thing? We skip ahead to the fourth I'm still right,

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but the first one. So the first three have to

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do with relationship. Okay, the first one is maybe the

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most important, your most important relationship, which is your relationship

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with yourself, how you treat yourself. And so if this

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is about a lot of us are super critical of ourselves,

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we're judgmental of ourselves. Negative, we put ourselves down, we

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don't deserve, we're not good enough. All of these things

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are lessons from our childhood, and because we incorporate them

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into our inner voice, that's why they are still with

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us as adults and into old age unless we address that.

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And in my book, I take my listeners and readers

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perhaps to establish a healthy relationship with themselves that comes

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from a place of love, compassion, acceptance, with some care

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and joy. So that's my first pillar.

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The second an interesting enough. I flew back from California

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this last week and I met a lovely seat maid

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who was eighty seven years old, and we were talking

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about the fact that so often as you're getting older,

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somehow your mind goes back to your childhood and things

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will just pop into my head that I just thinks

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I've forgotten for years. But it's always kind of present, isn't.

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It's always present. The voice we hear twenty four to

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seven comes from that perspective, And so you want to

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start talking to yourself by developing this healthy internal voice

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that comes from those qualities that I just described.

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Okay, so you're working on creating your own inner dialogue yes,

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and what suggestions like, how would you start conversation with yourself?

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that any time you're upset, anytime you're feeling not feeling great,

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I guarantee it's because you're giving yourself some kind of negative,

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critical message from your existing internal voice. Okay, So whenever

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you're upset, that's a signal to you, that's a cue

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fine message that you're giving yourself like, oh, you didn't

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do that well enough, or you're going to make a

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mistake something like that, Okay, And when you identify that message,

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you then want to shift to this new voice that

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you're developing. I refer to as your healthy internal parent. Oh,

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I like that the parent that you would have loved

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having growing up, that comes from those qualities of love

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and acceptance, and have him or her speak to you

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from that more positive place and help you begin to

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make shifts in how you treat yourself.

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Wow, that's great. That is something I can comprehend and

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relate to. I think back to my childhood and the

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one that I wish all the time was my actual

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parent was my uncle. So if I were in a

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stressful moment and sitting back and thinking to myself, what

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would Uncle George say to me? Oh that's brilliant.

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I like that. That's what. Yeah, And that's great that

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you have somebody in your life who you could model

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your internal voice based on. That's great.

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Oh wow, that's I like that. So so far, I'm

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trying to be in a safe zone of my Uncle George.

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Beautiful, beautiful.

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I got it. Then what do I do next? What's

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the next step?

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Okay? So I'm going to skip around because I want

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to get to the next thing that's most important. Okay,

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And that's my fifth pillar, which is mental balance and mastery.

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This is how you approach the world. Do you start

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the day thinking what might go wrong? What dangers are there?

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what great things can happen today. I'm excited about the

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day because that determines which direction you go in your life.

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So mental balance and mastery is also having a what

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I refer to as a growth mindset. A growth mindset

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means that if you notice any kind of weakness in

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yourself and your personality in your way of thinking, rather

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than accepting it, which would be a fixed mindset with

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a growth mindset, you say, Okay, how do I improve

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along this dimension? How do I overcome this shortcoming so

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that I grow from recognizing the shortcoming rather than just

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accepting it. A growth mindset means you have a positive mindset.

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You look for the positive. A lot of people start

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out thinking negative, Oh, this is going to be this

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is going to be difficult, this is going to be tough. Instead,

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you want to start out saying, I embrace this challenge.

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That's the positive approach. So that's my fifth pillar. Now

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I'll go to my sixth pillar, which is also very

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very important, and this is emotional balance and mastery. Okay,

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so this means so emotional balance and mastery is when

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we don't carry around excess emotional baggage. Boy, this is

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very much January. This is very much in line with

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your no whining, right. So if you are if you're

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carrying an upset, you're the only one that's suffering from

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carrying that upset. And you may be angry at somebody,

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but if you're carrying that anger, it's only hurting you,

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not the other person. So you want to recognize when

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you're carrying unfinished emotional business age in a process to

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finish it. Oh okay, Now, some people say, I don't

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want to let that guy off the hook. He hurt me,

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he did this, he did that. But you're not doing

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it to let that person off the hook. You're doing

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it to let yourself off the hook because you're the

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one that's that's being dragged down by negative emotions. You know, yes,

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you know, January. When we look at our heart rate,

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there's a measure of optimal heart rate functioning and it's

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called heart rate variability. What that means is, if you

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look at your heart rate pattern, you will see when

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it's optimally balanced. You'll see that your heart rate speeds

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up as you breathe in and slows down as you

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breathe out, and you have this beautiful rhythm that we

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call coherence. When we go into a positive emotional state,

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such as gratitude, appreciation, it supports this optimal pattern. However,

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when we're in a negative emotional state of regret, grievances, frustration,

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that pattern becomes chaotic. So what I'm saying to your

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audience is our emotional state directly impacts our physiological state

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and biochemical state. Wow. Yes, So I want to as

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much as possible be in a space and place of

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gratitude and appreciation that helps our body function at its best.

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is so interesting, January. If you and I were standing

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next to each other and I put an electrode on

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your scalp under my hat, under your hat, and I

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picked up your brain waves. Okay, I picked up your electroencephalogram,

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I would be able to detect my heart rate pattern

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in your brain Oh, think about that.

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I'm able to pick out my heart rate pattern in

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your brain waves. Now let's go back to the last

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point that I made that when you're in a positive emoment,

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stay you have this beautiful synchronous coherent heart rate pattern

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that I would pick up in your brain waves. But

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if I was upset and angry in my hedochaotic heart

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rate pattern, i'd pick up that in your brain waves.

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So this is one of the ways, unconsciously, unknowingly, we

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project who we are to other people, and the other

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people pick this up unconsciously automatically. And that's why when

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you're with some people you say this feels so good.

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You're with other people, you kind of Hey, I want

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to move on.

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Well, this is an incredible show because you are now

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explaining to me what has been going on for fifty

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four years of my marriage. And when my husband and

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I we're looking at each other, I feel like, so

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we're so symbiotic. I can just sense I know what

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he's thinking, he knows what I'm thinking. That is, Oh,

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that's incredible.

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Yeah. In my book and one of the chapters on

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Emotional Balance and Mastery, I go through this step by

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step on how you work through feelings, anger, resentment that

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perhaps that you've been carrying your whole life, certainly for

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many years, how to let go of them?

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Oh, incredible. We're going to take a break and just

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like doctor zatterav in the book too, and I'd like

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to share it with you.

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Introducing Living and Dying Without Whining a memoir Eighty Years

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of Magical Moments written by January Jones. Miss Jones shares

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her most exciting and magical moments, Patriotic moments landing on

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aircraft carrier USS Carl Vincent, staying overnight then catapulting off,

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revealing moments working for the CIA for five years, thrilling

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and comforting moments, meeting Charles Lindbergh and Neil Armstrong together.

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Sassy moments swinging sixties and the seventies, the Age of Aquarius,

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Exciting moments as a TV contestant on Jokers, Wild and

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Family Feud, Reality moments.

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Playing in the World Series of Golf on Reality TV.

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Career moments as a stewardess for Eastern Airlines, Touching moments

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with meeting a half brother she never knew about, with

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many many more magical moments. Living and Dying Without Whining.

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A memoir eighty Years of Magical Moments written by January Jones,

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available at Amazon dot com and Audible dot com.

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Welcome back with my incredible guest, doctor Steve Steven cider Off.

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And he's written a book too, and it just shows

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you if you're a senior, if you have a book,

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sit down, start doing it, because if we can do it,

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anyone can do it, you know, doctors. In my mind

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as we were visiting, I was thinking back to how

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I was able to overcome some of the things that

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my inner child had been dealing with. And you know

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what helped me do that was once you can actually

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have forgiveness, and I mean truly deeply realize that by

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forgiving others, you were giving your forgiving yourself and you're

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breaking up. You know, a bad habit because so many

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people just dwell on things that happened a long long

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time ago.

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Oh isn't that true? Yeah, So let's get back to

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my original point about our personal energy, that we all

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have a limited amount and our body wants to either

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go into defend and protect or heal and maintain and grow. Okay,

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And that's again about the balance that I talked about.

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So when we carry grudges, when we carry resentments, that

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triggers the stress response, and we're using up energy on this, say,

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this person or situation that no longer is important to us,

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and we're wasting our personal energy that we have limited

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amounts there instead of using it for our bodies maintenance

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and healing. So we want to be very careful about

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where we place our energy when we worry. And this

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is another important thing. When we worry, we're not really

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having an impact on what we're worrying about. It's just

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wasted energy because worry triggers the stress response, the fire

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or flight response, and takes precious energy away from organs

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in our body that require energy for maintenance. So that's

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really important. Now I want to say one more thing

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about that. Yes, last week I gave a talk at

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a conference on longevity, and now we have ways of

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literally doing a biological age of ourselves. So like you're

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eighty or eighty one, but that's your chronological age. Your

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biological age is very different. Your biological age is actually

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how your body's aging. And so one of the reasons

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I wrote my book on the Nine Pillars of Resilience

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is to lay out a program, lay out a path

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for optimal aging and slowly. That's in my title Slowing Aging. Now,

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I did my biological age two years ago when I

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turned seventy five, and my biological age came out as

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fifty five, twenty years younger. So I've used the nine

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pillars because it's really a way that I lived my

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life in the optimal fashion. As a psychologist, this is

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what I've been working to develop and share with the world,

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is a way to slow the aging process. And so,

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following the lessons of that book, I have an aging

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process that's much slower than my chronological age. And that's

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the message to everybody is you're all capable of slowing

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your aging.

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Wow, Okay, And this will be revealed once we get

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your book, and I'm looking forward to that because some

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days I feel it's crazy, But some days I feel

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like I'm twenty five, and then other days I wake

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up and I feel like I'm one hundred and five

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and I can actually you're sharing with us that we

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can actually control.

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This, right, Definitely, definitely wonderful. Again, there's so many factors

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that go into how we age and how fast we age,

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and many of those we have control over.

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Okay, this would be very helpful for people who are

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dealing with illness. And so many of my dear, dear

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friends have dealt with cancer and you know, chemo and

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just so many, so many things to worry about, and

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sometimes they're worrying about things that actually they have no

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control over.

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Right, absolutely, that's what I mean. That's what the definition

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of worry is wasted energy. Really, and again back to

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what the study that I said about the how quickly

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or slowly it takes to heal. When you're undistressed, your

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body's going to heal more slowly. And for seniors that's

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so important because you know, we lose some of our

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capability of healing, and so we don't want to waste

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our energy when it could be going into the healing

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healing process by becoming more resilient.

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Wow, this should your book should be mandatory reading in

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every doctor's office. It should be in the waiting room.

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A look with my thou shalt not wine book.

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They are a good fit, right right.

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Yeah, And it's interesting as you age, uh, you know,

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the goal is to age gracefully, but then you get

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around other people and all they want to talk about

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it is their pills and their doctors. And it's so

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hard to just get people to let go of that

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and move forward, isn't it.

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It is? But you know when we're engaged in conversations

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and someone starts to talk about that, well we can

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and we can educate them. We can say, you know,

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when you talk about those things, you only make the

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situation worse because you're emphasizing something that's negative and your

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body reacts to that negativity. So let's collaborate to come

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up with something positive and good to think about. Let's

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identify what we can feel gratitude toward. Because I just

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learned that when I go into the state of gratitude,

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my body actually livens up. My body actually becomes more revitalized.

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Yeah, this is actually I love it because this is

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a gift you can give yourself because everyone is saying what's.

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Your secret to longevity?

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And up until now, I, you know, basically have said, well,

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I smile a lot and I try to be positive

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and it does help, doesn't it?

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It definitely helps. Yeah, I love lot of the positive

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mindset and mental balance and mastery is always looking for

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the positive. It's not that you ignore the dangers, but

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once you figure out how you will deal with the danger,

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you then don't dwell on it. You then don't worry

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about it because that's putting more energy where you don't

518
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want to put more energy. You want to put energy

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into the positive potentials.

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Now interesting, I've never heard this before. Obviously, are you

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the only one who has talked about this? Because no

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one has ever made the connection between my emotions and

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my physical body. This is very new. I'm sure my

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listeners are just thrilled to hear this. Does anyone do

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doctors know about this?

526
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Well, you know, we're still trying to educate doctors.

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Guys.

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They have it. They have a very mechanical perspective on

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the body, you know, all the how it works from

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a mechanical perspective, and they're less likely to bring in

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the impact of emotions.

532
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Uh huh.

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And they don't fully understand the impact of stress as well,

534
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and how important it is.

535
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Well, the reality is they're basically mechanics and we're the

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vehicle they're working on and this connection. Are they going

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to start teaching this in medical skills doctor?

538
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Well? Little by little, Well, there are changes happening. I

539
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teach at UCLA, and I teach I teach in the

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medical school, and so I have been in teaching in

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a program called the Doctoring Program, where I teach medical

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students what they don't learn in medical school. All of

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the things that I'm sharing with all of you.

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Right now, Oh wonderful. You know who I'm going to

545
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share this with. We see, uh, my husband's cardiologists once

546
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a month, my mom and I'm going to and he

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is very positive and he's helped us mentally deal with

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illness in a wonderful way. But I and he's ahead

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of a whole cardiac division. So I definitely am going

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to be telling him about this. Anything else you want

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to stress before we have to go.

552
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Well, I want to remind people when you have a

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growth mindset, it means that anything that you're upset about,

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you don't have to be stuck with that. There's always

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ways of getting better, becoming better. And not only that,

556
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but the more you focus on becoming better, you actually

557
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and have a purpose to your life that in and

558
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of itself extends your life. Having a purpose. Finding a

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purpose in your life, which is my third pillar of resilience,

560
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will also help you be more excited to wake up

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in the morning and to find things that you love

562
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and enjoy. But my book, The Nine Pillars of Resilience,

563
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The Proven Path to Master Stress, slow aging, and increase vitality,

564
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is really a handbook for all of these things. Michael Ovitz,

565
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the former CEO of Disney and you know the boundary

566
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of CIA. He said, my book is a brilliant book,

567
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and he said it's the best handbook for living your

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best life. So it's something that you can pick up

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and read five pages or five minutes, and you have

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an idea and you can follow that idea throughout the

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day and it helps guide you onto what I refer

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to as the path of optimal living.

573
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Oh, that's incredibook. Because I always refer to all of

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my books, especially about shall Not Whine, I refer to

575
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it as a bathroom book, and just everyone goes in

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there to their throne room to do a little reading.

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And I think they should have my book in there,

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in your book, right in the bathroom. And I love

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that four or five pages at a time. It's not overwhelming,

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is it.

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No, it doesn't have to be overwhelming, just a little

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bit out of time, one step out of time.

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And you know, without knowing it, you now are explaining

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to me. And this will help me explain it to

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my family. You know, they'll say, well, why are you

586
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you're eighty one years old, why are you doing litter Granny?

587
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And why are you becoming an affiliate at Amazon? And actually,

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this is what you need to do to live a

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long life, isn't it?

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Absolutely? Absolutely? I totally agree.

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Yeah.

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And so your audience can can go to my website

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doctor stephensenterof dot com and yes, my Resilience Assessment booklet,

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or I can also give you the link if you

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have show notes or other places for it, I'll give

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you the link so that people will have that.

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Oh wonderful. We'll do that for sure. I really love

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sharing this with you. It's such a timely thing because

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you know, people are living long or longer these days,

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but they're not happy. No.

601
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Absolutely, we want to increase not only lifespan, but what

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we call health span, that's staying functional as long as possible.

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And they're both connected. Before we go, I always ask

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all my guests, and I'm going to ask you this now,

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if you could have dinner with anyone living or dad

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besides me, who would you invite to dinner.

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Living or dead?

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Living or dead?

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Wow? There are a lot of people that come to mind,

610
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but there's a nineteenth and twentieth century mystic gur Jief

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Orgerie Gorge Gurdjeep, brilliant, brilliant man. That's who I would pick.

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Wow.

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Okay, no one has said that. Most of my women

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guests say they're going to invite Oprah or Michelle Obama.

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You're on a completely different level, and it's a wonderful level.

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And we have loved having you with us today, and

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there's more pillars to talk about, so I hope you

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will come back again and again.

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Well, thank you very much for having me. I've enjoyed

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our conversation. Yes, I'd be happy to come back.

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Okay. To all my listeners, take care, stay safe, be

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sure to glitter and glow until we meet again. By bye.

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successful too. Always remembered your passion plus your purpose will

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