January Jones Sharing Wait! What? We're the Parents Now with Bobbe White

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FORCY Radio. Who is January Jones. She is not a young, beautiful,

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talented actress on Madman. She is
not an older, gorgeous exotic dancer

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from The Johnny Carson Show. She
is an author and she wrote Thou Shalt

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Not Y, the Eleventh Commandment,
that reached number one at Amazon dot com.

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She is a reality TV golf personality
with World High Stakes Golf televised on

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hd Net. She is a humorist
and whinologist expert. She is your featured

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host today on January Jones sharing success
stories. So sit back, relax,

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and get ready to laugh and listen
to Miss Jones with her eclectic roster of

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guests as you learn life's lessons.
These stories plus sharing equal success. Welcome

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and remember beware because you are entering
the no whining world of January Jones.

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Greetings everyone, I hope you're having
a fantastic day. I'm January Jones and

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I'd like to welcome you to our
podcast. As you know, my new

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brand is the Glitter Granny. We
all wear many hats as we go through

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life. I'm a wife, a
mother, grandmother, sister, friend,

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But today I'm wearing my white interview
hat. The nice thing about hats as

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the cover up your hair. Now, for my listeners, let me ask

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you a question. Have you ever
had difficulties with your elderly parents? Yeah?

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We all have. Do you know
what to do when you're dealing with

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your parents, no matter what age
you are or at what stage of life

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you are. Do you ever sometimes
feel as though that you are the parent

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now instead of them? Sadly,
that does happen to most of us.

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Would you like to meet someone who
has walked the walk and talk the talk

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in the world of aging parents?
Can you imagine what it would be like

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to actually be able to help people
to learn how to get through those very

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difficult times? With their parents.
Would you like to meet someone who will

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share her own experiences with her own
elderly parents with you? Let me ask

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you, have you ever heard an
amazing book called Wait What Were the Parents?

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Now? Navigating the ups and downs
a loved one's health decline gets real,

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very real. If you can answer
yes or maybe to any of these

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questions, then you are in the
right place. And I'd like to welcome

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you to January Jones sharing success stories
today. So now it's time rest relaxed,

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Go get some wine, get some
cheese, and join me in the

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no wine zone. Let me tell
you about my guests today. My guest

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author targets the joys and challenges dealing
with elderly parents. Her fourth book,

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Wait What Were the Parents Now,
draws on her own experiences, his roles

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reversed as her parents, IRV and
Shirley scheckter aged, our parents are living

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longer. That's a fact. Very
few of us leave the world old mentally.

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She includes stories from some thirty five
contributors, mostly from friends and people

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who became friends from the Quincy,
Illinois area and beyond. It's my pleasure

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to welcome back to the show again. My dear friend Bobby White, Hi,

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Bobby, how are you doing today? Darrel feeling well? Thanks January.

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Oh, I can't tell you how
much Leave and I have enjoyed your

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book. It's been a delight.
It's been quite a revelation to us.

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And we you know you can you
still can teach old dogs some new tricks.

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We've blurned so much from you.
But before we get into the interview,

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let me ask you about the pandemic. And I know it affected you

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with your parents because you write about
it movingly in the book, But in

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general, give us your viewpoint of
how the pandemic affected your personal life,

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your parents, and your career.
How did it affect that? Okay,

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let's work backwards. I was in
banking and that was at the end of

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my career, and I was a
customer service rep, so I helped millions

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of people who walked in to the
lobby. And once the pandemic was in

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full swing, our lobby was closed. So it sounds like we wouldn't have

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anything to do, but we're actually
quite busy phone customers. And then we

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had an area in the back where
they could walk in and stay behind glass.

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We also had glass on our desks
when that was weird because I had

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worked so long without any barriers.
On the other hand, when I tellered

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a little bit, it was nice
to have the glass because we're just like

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crawling across the counter practically to see
their balance on the computer. But anyway,

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so that was different. But I
felt like our bank did pretty well.

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I had a couple of tellers who
weren't real mindful of going places and

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parties and such. And two weeks
before I retired, we had one person

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who had COVID, and out of
the staff of twelve, only three of

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them stayed because the rest of us
had to go home and isolate and three

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people to cover twelve positions. And
I was so glad I wasn't one of

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the three. But I kept thinking, and this blows the right diame at

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two weeks, I'm gonna die.
So that was that was a real,

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a real finale y. So that
was work. Um. Um, let's

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see with my with my mom.
My dad was already deceased when the pandemic

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affected everything. With my mom um, I did window visits uh at her

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nursing home. Those were a little
tough because she's deaf, so we couldn't

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do the phone thing. Um,
so I would take a whiteboard and she

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could read. So I would take
markers and I would ask questions and that

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was the best we could do.
And of course she didn't feel real good

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at the end, and she would
just give me one word answer. So

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it was real hard for a conversation, but you do what you have to.

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And then one time, I just
remember one of my last visits with

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her. I was sitting there and
she just wasn't interested in conversing, and

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I thought, oh my gosh,
I forgot to wear lipstick today. And

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my mom always wore lipstick out of
the house always, and so I took.

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All I did was I had a
red dry erase marker, and I

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put it all over my lips.
No mirror, no mirror, And I

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thought, maybe this'll get a you
know, chuck ale out of her.

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No, but the nurse and I
were hysterical. Okay, oh yeah,

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So then before was the pandemic over
before she died. No, In fact,

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the day before she died, the
hospice called us and said that if

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my sister and I wanted to come
in because it was at the end.

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Even though there they weren't allowing family
or visitors in. They would give us

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a pass because she was dying.
And that was a dilemma because it was

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running rampant, and because this nursing
home was the one who took patients discharged

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from the hospital and the other nursing
homes weren't, so they had a lot

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of COVID And so my sister and
I talked about it and it's like,

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well, I just hate to walk
into that. And Jeff's mom's ninety three

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at the time, and we're just
like, you know, what would mom

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do? And I'm like, she
wouldn't go, So so I just tried

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to make a decision that way.
I just she wouldn't have known. I

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don't think. Well, they say
hearing is the last thing to go,

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but she was pretty much asleep.
Yeah whatever. Yeah, so that was

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tough. So I actually didn't get
to see her at the end. But

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thanks for strange. Yeah, yeah, what a difficult thing. And just

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for our listeners information, Bobby lost
her dad when he was ninety three.

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She lost her mom when she was
ninety six, and she writes about them

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in her book, and it is
a kind of book that I told Bobby

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before we went on the air that
my husband and I were actually fighting over.

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I let a book for him there, you go, right, that's

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coming your way. I would put
it down, he'd pick it up,

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and I'd be kind of waiting in
the background for him to put it down,

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and then I'd grab it, and
you know, we've it's We've got

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to learn to share. I mean, you know, after we're going on

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fifty three years, so this is
probably something we should work out. Probably,

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Yeah, but I'm not whining about
it. And right now we're going

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to hear why I'm not whining.
Lately, there is a whining epidemic in

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our world. People are even whining
about whining. Are you sick and tired

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Jones is an internationally known author in
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housewife huber. With her book being
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find Thou Shall Not Whine at Amazon
dot com. Welcome Back with my Friend,

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Humorous Extraordinary Bobby White. Bobby share
with our listeners where they can get

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their book and your website and how
they can contact you. Okay, And

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the book is available on Amazon dot
com and it also is available through me.

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If you want it signed, then
I would I would get you a

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copy and we would work through the
mail. I send it real cheap media

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mail so it's not expensive to send, and then you can email me if

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you wanted to buy one directly at
Bobby White at gmail dot com. And

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that's bobbe w h I t E
at gmail dot com. My website is

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Bobby White Speaks because I speak through
books, but I also speak on the

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stage as a professional speaker, so
it's Bobby White Speaks dot com. Okay,

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wonderful information, and I hope our
listeners will follow up on that.

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You know this. How many books
have you written now, Bobby, Well,

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for that, I've authored alone,
and then I've co authored probably that

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many. And one of them was
Chicken Soup for the Wine Lovers Soul.

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That's that was fun, and and
then the others were just I had a

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chapter in several Yeah, that's great. Great, Um, how long did

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it take you to write this book
because you had thirty five different sources that

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contributed to the right, right,
Well, that was the quick part.

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Yeah, I didn't mean to talk
over you. Yeah, this was a

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big project for you to do.
You know, I mentioned to you that

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what I'd like to do is go
to the back where you sum up with

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seventeen words that you give credit to
Robert Gilbert for And these words are just

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trigger words for people who are dealing
with elderly parents or people like myself who

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has become an elderly parent. And
I'd like to talk about these words and

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then have you give us your thoughts
or an example of when you had to

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do use these words. The first
word is act act like the adult that

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you are. Wow. Now this
is good advice for the parent and for

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the caretaker. What's your thoughts on
act well? Basically, elderly parents or

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anyone who's declining in health is not
going to be at their best because they're

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going to feel maybe tired, maybe
irritable, maybe pain. You just don't

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know, and so they might be
argumentive, they might be whiny, and

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you just have to control yourself and
just act like the adult and just try

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to stay as even as you can. And it's not always easy. What

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was the hardest thing that you had
to act upon with Irvian sr oh Gosh.

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I think with my dad it was
that he had dementia, and I

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think I had to really work at
conversing with him even though it was wrong,

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maybe had a story all google stop, and I just learned to go

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along with him instead of correcting him. That was hard. Yeah, Yeah,

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it's important to go with the flow. And the second advice is accept

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except help from others when they offer
it. And I know myself that is

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a very tough thing to do because
so many times it's hard to say you

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need help. Yeah, and it's
hard to be gracious about it. As

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as far as accepting, what was
the most difficult thing that your parents had

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to accept? I think moving,
well, moving you're away from each other.

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That was hard because my dad was
in a different area of his nursing

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home and he was a veteran,
and there really wasn't room for mom there,

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but Dad could stay there free of
charge because he was a pow and

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at the cost of nursing homes.
I mean, it would have been lovely

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to keep him together, but we
just had to accept that this was,

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like me, the way it was. And then and then Mom stayed and

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assisted living longer, so they just
had different health paths. But it was

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also hard when we asked Mom to
go to see dad with us, and

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she did for a while until he
didn't recognize her, and then she wouldn't

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go. We just had to accept
that. Yeah, Yeah, that was

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such a hard part to read about. How long were they married? Oh,

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boy, probably let's say they got
married in nineteen forty six, So

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then if they were ninety six,
that was a lot of years pay over

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sixty. Well yeah, yeah,
And it sounds like in general they had

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a pretty wonderful life together, didn't
they they really did. I mean they

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worked together their entire work life.
My parents had sold shoes, they had

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shoes stores, and by the way, I bought my first pair of shoes

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at age thirty four when he went
out of business, and I had to

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pay full price at that point.
But anyway, they did shoes, they

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did clothing, and then they retired
in nineteen eighty nine and what they had

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always wanted to do was go to
Florida and they lived there six months and

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then they would come back to the
Midwest for six months, so until they

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started changing. But that was the
that was their goal, as to retire

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and go to Florida part of the
year. Yeah. Yeah, we were

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now in Florida. This is our
two years now. We've been here.

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We were in California for over forty
years. Then we retired to Arizona and

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we were up in the mountains and
it was this wonderful I called it the

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enchanted Forest. However, we were
at an elevation of five thousand, and

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all of a sudden I had trouble
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kiddo, you better get down to
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our daughter was here in Sarah soda. So that is an easy decision for

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us and very happy here. Okay. Number three is believe, believe in

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your decisions. Gather adequate information to
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need help cutting through the clutter of
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just to sort things out? It
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Number four, care for your loved
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children. And that that one content
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wouldn't let us do that if we
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daughter said that about my parents when
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we talked by phone and she'd say, how's Granny and Grampy doing. I'm

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like, well, they left the
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You would never let Nick and I
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leave them in so much harm's way
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tenderness, and you do admit that
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all human. It's what happens,
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the only constant it was. It
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that stress, do I go,
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and but it's like, but then
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trying to plan ahead and make arrangements
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com and audiobooks dot com. Read
by Miss Jones, Welcome back. We're

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here with humorous Bobby White and her
wonderful book. Wait what We're the parents

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now? And this is a labor
of love that Bobby has put together with

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the help of many other people who
have contributed. This is something that so

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many people are going through and what
a wonderful opportunity for you to write this

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in reach out to other people and
help them because this is unknown territory.

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of it. And this is like
a little guide book. I'd say it's

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a great gift to give to all
of your children and grandchildren. Also,

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it's from a great book for people
who are older as leave and I are

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to kind of give us an insight
into what's ahead and what to expect.

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And you talk of in the book
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a situation before making a decision.
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fact that you worked with your sister
to do all of this and how fortunate

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you were to have each other to
go through it together. Right, We

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were very different. I think with
my head. She thinks with their heart,

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which is probably a good combination.
But she could always add the emotion

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to a thought or a decision that
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unless I really felt strongly about something, we would hear each other out and

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try to make the best decision.
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probably the biggest decision of our parents, our elderly friends or relatives is taking

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those car keys away, that has
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over and over again, and and
I just we just had I just had

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to put my foot down. I
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but she was like, oh,
but you know, then they feel so

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dependent. It's like it's better than
dead people that he hits, you know,

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It's like she's she's graduated from assisted
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unless she can move in with you. Well, no, that wasn't a

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good option, and we just have
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that you had someone to go through
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enough, I thought it was fascinating
that your husband, Jeff, also his

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parents were alive, and you are
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world had for parents alive. I
mean, my parents died gosh when I

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was in my forties. So you
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you to have to do it with
your parents and also Jeff's parents at the

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same time. Wow, Yeah,
well we decided to divide and conquer.

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He has five siblings and and so
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that and that's that's fine. Um, so we I took care of mine,

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he took care of his. And
then one night he came home and

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he said we should write a book. And that the interesting thing when you

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said not many people have four parents
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so we were sixty and over,
and he just it was just unusual.

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Now Jeff's mom is still living and
she's going to be ninety six in

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October. Wow, well, that's
amazing. I don't you're one of the

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few people I know. But you
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this is probably going to be happening
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You know, my my husband's a
veteran and he I have to say,

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has been benefit of wonderful via.
They've been wonderful to help us through

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all of his medical situations. It's
very fortunate. And more and more people

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are living older and older. It's
a fact of life. Absolutely. Yeah.

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and sometimes it's very necessary, and
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do, isn't it It is?
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be hap of mind for me is
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still want another three months, and
he drove and then he had a head

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on collision. Nobody was hurt terribly. But but then you know, we

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asked the car repair shop, don't
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give him a loaner. He doesn't
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got thick and it was total,
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oh, okay, he's driving,
I'm sure it'll be fine. Well,

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the article came out in our newspaper
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was driving again, and it recognized
the seat the belt the belt of the

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Year award, the seat belt that
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previous year, and this one woman
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if the police recognized her Saved by
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And at the end of the article
it cited an eighty seven year old

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man was ticketed for a proper laying
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gosh, that's dad. Oh yeah. When I saw that, the worst

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part she had a toddler in the
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know it. Wow. Yeah,
it could have been so much worse.

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And so three months later that hit
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that's it, that's it. Yeah, And then I felt really bad about

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it. I felt so bad.
You feel so guilty. And we went

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to Chicago to meet our kids per
weekend and I was just trudging around feeling

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like sad sack, and and I'm
like, here, I am, I've

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got my kids together, my husband's
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they're in college and beyond. And
all of a sudden, it's like,

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but Bobby, you did the right
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has to be okay. And I
tell you what, the guilt and the

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stress just evaporated. And me it
gives me goose bumps. And and I

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just can't tell you how important it
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it was and make a good decision. Oh no, yeah. You know

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we've experienced since we've moved to Sara
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going to a late performance and if
we're going to be out having dinner and

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having a drink whatever. We have
become Uber users. It is just amazing.

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You just pick up the phone,
they pick you up, they drop

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you up to come back and get
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I am doing a commercial here for
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they're wonderful things for elderly people.
And it helps you keep your independence.

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Yes, yeah, it helps you
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to call the kids all the time
before we go to break. Let's talk

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about focus. You write about focus, giving your full attention when your loved

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one talks to you, and listening, listening, listening, and that's hard

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to do. I know so often
when we're even when we're talking to each

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other, we stop listening because we
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Yeah, I still do that.
I think I just haven't learned how

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important that is to just just be
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what they're saying doesn't make total sense, and maybe what they're saying you can't

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you can't help them with. But
sometimes just talking is therapeutic. Yes,

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now. And the other thing you
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behavior, forgive for mistakes. Everyone
makes mistakes, nobody it and forgiveness is

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and guess what the most important thing
is to forgive yourself? Right? Yeah?

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Yes, And that's you know,
like you said, there's always some

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regrets. Another area. I think
I did write about it, but when

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it came to cleaning out their home, it all fell on me. And

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they hadn't moved in thirty five years, you know, and they still had

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boxes from there the first house three
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was just too emotional for my sister. And so I was a little,

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you know, disappointed and sometimes mad
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and it was just it was a
lot. And it took me weeks

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and weeks. And she did help
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helped her and they kind of clause
which was like more little closet, you

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know. And yet I had to
get to a point where it had to

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be done. We needed to sell
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her fault that she's emotional. Yeah, yeah, you have to make adjustments

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and accommodations in these kind of situations. You know. Right now, we're

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going to talk about some priceless personalities, And after we do that, I'm

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going to bring my husband leave on
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can meet leave and he can give
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that's my pleasure to introduce you to my

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partner, my partner in crime,
Leif, jonasm and Leap and Bobby.

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I think you've met people, maybe
at some of the AaTh meetings, but

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I probably so. Leip enjoyed reading
the book and very much so it's quite

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inspiring and not it's funny, but
it's curious, and it's it was very

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very interesting to read. I really
loved it. Thank you. It sound

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like you were fighting over it what
we were, and I very sawdom read

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and jan was having January was having
trouble getting it from me because I was

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so interested in it. But it
was certainly very very inspirational. Thank you.

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Yeah, tell us what were some
of the did you learn anything or

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what were some of the takeaways you
got from it? I learned that you

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need to wash your dishes with soap. We've been not doing that or I

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hadn't I do dishes, She does
the cooking, and I was cheating,

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and we so now have a soap
dish for doing the dishes. So we're

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not going to die from bacteria from
not washing the dishes, which sounds mighter,

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but it really isn't. That's great. So did it change any of

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your thoughts about our aging together or
apart or whatever? Who do your thoughts?

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It's still a nice mystery. And
both my parents died. I was

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forty five when they had me,
so I lost them some time ago,

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and my two older sisters took care
while we were in LA they were back

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in Cleveland, so I didn't have
the experience of dealing with my dad who

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had very serious Alzheimer's. So that's
our big thing. We take all the

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chest to see if we have I'm
coming so far. Wait what was your

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name? Yeah? Yeah, least
eighty three and I'm gonna be eighty next

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month. And we've been married,
we'll be going on fifty three years.

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It's amazing because it's a second marriage
for both of us, which is this

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kind of an amazing thing. Your
book brought home to us a lot of

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things that I think it's important for
elderly couples to do. And one of

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the things we have done, and
I would suggest you do it. It's

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a very difficult thing to do.
But we met a wonderful lady at our

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group with a disabled veterans and she
works for one of the local mortuaries,

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a funeral home, and we had
a wonderful meeting with her. Her name's

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June Baby, and we made all
of the arrangements. And I think this

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is one of the nicest things that
you could possibly do for your children and

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grandchildren and get all of that taken
care of. Don't you agree, body,

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I do. Nobody in my family
but me knows I made the pre

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planning. I did the pre planning
for my parents. I just I had

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to do it. And it doesn't
matter if they knew or not. Yeah,

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but oddly enough I need to do
that for myself and Jeff. And

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isn't that interesting. I'm like,
I'm adamant get it done, and I

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haven't done it. You need a
pet talk. Yeah. Yeah, it's

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a difficult thing to do, but
it gives you a chance to sit down

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and discuss how you really feel,
what you want to do. And we

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many years ago we went to a
funeral military service at Arlington National Cemetery,

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and prior to that, I think
Leith had just didn't really care when,

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way the other where where he was
going to be buried or whatever. But

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then after that service, it was
so impressive that he decided that he wanted

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to be buried at wants to be
buried at Arlington, And I asked him

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why, and share with Bobby your
thoughts. If the grandchildren are around and

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the kids, it would be a
wonderful experience for them to come to that

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funeral at Arlington, because it is
a special special place it is, and

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in order to be buried there,
you have to have either purple heart or

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bronze or silver or gold star metal. And Leave has two purple hearts and

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a bronze star, so he definitely
can be buried there. And you know,

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it brings you in touch with reality
and how you want to be remembered.

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Right. It's a hard thing to
do when you don't have any insight

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as to what your parents would like, isn't it well? Right? And

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my parents we didn't say the D
word in our house. We wanted to

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talk about it. And so I
remember when I tried and I said,

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so, Dad, you know,
like what kind of funeral do you want?

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And he said, oh, you
know, just the usual stuff.

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Okay, all right, there you
go. And yeah, and I didn't

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ask him, do you want to
be married? I be buried in that

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terrible Do you want to be buried
in the in the veterans cemetery? Because

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he was a two two properal hearts
and a bronze star medal to bronze star

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good, yeah, coincidental, But
anyway, I said, did you want

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to be buried in that cemetery or
the jew cemetery, and he chose the

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Jewish cemetery. So that was the
only decision I had from them. Oh

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okay, so he did not want
to pick out the food for Asie pushed,

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we just we just picked our favorite
restaurant. And you know, when

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we walk in, it was just
our family, and our families aren't there

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that big. So when we walked
in, Mom was already there, seated

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at the head of the table,
and she said to me, Um,

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give Dad the bill. I know. She was really pretty good then,

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and I don't I don't know if
she was joking. I hope she was

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joking, but she had a little
twinkle at her eye. I just thought

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that was fantastic. They have paid
to wait, we will go Dad the

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bill. Brilliant, brilliant. Well, I know, we had a big

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discussion about the different casseroles that your
favorite foods to take ye after the burial

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gathering. Yeah, everybody has funeral
food in their home. Yeah, yeah,

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I know. And then Leif was
saying, well what do you take?

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And I'm thinking, oh, my
gosh, you know, it's I

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don't cook anymore. No, Well
for me, for me, it does,

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but for most people it doesn't.
So you know, I'm definitely isn't

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there the Jewish joke about calling up
and ordering instead of preparing dinner. Yeah,

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that's that's problem. What I would
do for sure. I had a

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friend bring um um package of uh
toilet paper by my house when my dad

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died, and the cards said for
tears and other things. And I mean,

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we knew each other pretty well.
You couldn't do that for everybody,

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but the brilliance of that is especially
if you have family out of town and

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now they all are coming in.
Who has toilet paper? Nobody does?

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You have to go to the store, last place you want to go,

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last place you want to see people. And we gave it to it and

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passed it along and gave it to
a friend and she stood on her porch

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and she said, how did you
know? Awesome? Awesome. Well,

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it's time to close, and I
want to thank both of you, two

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of my favorite people. Have you
with me on the show. My upcoming

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guests will all be exciting, eclectic, and energizing, just like Bobby and

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Leaf. And I'm going to interject
here one of the other nice things about

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the book is you're going to maintain
your sense of humor as long as you

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possibly can. That's my favorite chapter. Yes, very nicely done. Thank

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you, Thank you for sharing the
No Wine Zone with us today. And

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remember stop whining, start smiling,
and then start laughing with these people like

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these two. And if that doesn't
work, then you can just start eating

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chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate. Take care and stay safe until we

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meet again. Thank you Bobby and
leave. Thank you Bobby, Bye bye

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bye. We want to thank you
for listening to January Jones sharing success stories.

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Always remember miss jones personal mantra,
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can do it. That's what all
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All you need to do will be
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your family and friends. We hope
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